I am sure at least some of you are thinking it. So let's talk about it. Yes, EACH of my 2 kids are getting a laptop for Christmas, and I am not holding that as alot.
For me personally...if someone got me a laptop, I would be over the moon! I see the value in the computer. I see how that will help me with work, banking, and other tasks, without being tied to a desk top (which is what we currently have and have no plans on replacing in the near future). I know that is an expensive gift, and one that would (and should) replace lots of other things. That is me..and the world I grew up in.
For my kids...that is not the outside world they know. Having a computer, a phone, and other electronic devices....that is the norm. They have never really expressed an interest in having all of these things, even though other kids do have them, and have had them for years. These items are not exciting. They are part of their every day world, so they don't hold the magic that they should.
We have never subscribed to the norm, in the sense that when other kids were getting high end technology....we didn't get it for the kids. We have an original Wii gaming system....not the latest and greatest. They don't have a smart phone (they do have a super basic phone that is an emergency phone when they are home alone). They have a tablet that is several years old and they never really got into (I think partly because it was a cheap one and it was very hard to use). But we did not just go get them technology for the sake of having it.
Our kids have never EVER been kids that WANTED stuff. Most kids would watch a commercial for a toy, game, product and say "Mom! I want that!!" My kids were indifferent. If they had it, fine. If not, fine. They have never been able to come up with lists of things they wanted for birthdays or holidays. They never want anything. Sassy will just say books. Bossy will just look at you. They don't get excited over STUFF. They do get more excited over experiences...but they have a hard time with the idea that something that will happen in the future is a gift now. Earlier this year, Sassy went to Quebec on a school trip, and it was part of her Christmas gift in 2014. She said ok, but didn't see the connection between the event and it being a gift....particularly since that isn't how it was for most of the kids.
The decision to get them laptops has been an on-going discussion for the past year. They will be going into High School next school year, and at least for Sassy....more and more work will be done on a computer or by accessing the internet (we are already seeing it happen much more than when we were in CT). Sassy will be in honors classes, and along with that comes research projects. And....we are hoping at some point....she finds her niche socially.....and that a computer will be part of her social life. As for Bossy....he doesn't NEED his own computer; we know that. But this is where the twin thing comes in for us....how do we get something for her and not for him....or what can we get him that would be equivalent (we couldn't come up with anything). We thought about a week at Scout camp (which is actually MORE money than we spent on his computer!)...but his health and developmental issues makes camp a question mark. We can't give him that as a gift (and never mind that he wouldn't understand that his gift is 6 months away) and then decide not to send him because he isn't ready or isn't medically cleared.
So yeah....this is a big gift.....but I don't know if THEY will see it that way. I think Sassy will to some degree. I don't see them getting overly excited over this. And honestly....I could get them 2 dozen things and I doubt they would be excited over that either. I wanted this Christmas to be the one that they were excited....a new place to live, we have Dad, AND maybe something under the tree that gets a WOW.
I think right now they are very concrete. They will see 3-4 things, and even if we spent a million dollars....they will only see it as 3-4 things. And my heart will hurt if they say "is that it?" when we are done opening them. My heart will hurt that they don't see the bigger picture and my heart will hurt because they are disappointed.
So no...I am not seeing their computers as alot. It isn't about the money. It is about finding out if all the other stuff we have given them....the promise that things will get better now that we are all together.....will that be enough......