This post is probably long over due....G-man has a boat. This boat is my nemesis. Unfortunately, it is a sore subject with him, and no matter what, I am not going to win. I have resigned myself to live with this object.
About 6 months before he and I met....he bought a new boat. He was a young bachelor, and his only responsibility was rent (which by the way, he shared with 2 other guys). His Jeep was paid for. Almost all of his income was disposable. Until he met me. :)
Don't get me wrong...in our younger days, before kids, it was nice to sit out on the back of the boat for the afternoon. His parents live on the river, so if I got bored, he could drop me off at the dock. (Fishing isn't my thang.....).
Before we were married...the boat payment was solely his responsibility. All $378 of it. Per month. Every month. But then we got married, and now WE had a boat payment. I sort of brushed it off at the time....neither of us had a car payment, so in essence, THAT was our car payment.
Then we moved out of state. And we couldn't take the boat with us. We were in an apartment, and no where to store it. Plus, by this point, the Jeep was gone and the cars we had at that time were not heavy enough to tow a boat. The deal was that we would leave it at his folks house, and when we could take it, we would.
Meanwhile....his dad, his brother, his friends....used the boat. And we continued to pay $378 a month.
Fast forward about 2.5 years. This was the summer of 2002...and I was expecting Bossy and Sassy. We needed to by a new car because neither of our cars were large enough to put 2 infant seats in the back. Now we were faced with a real car payment, and a boat payment.
I wanted to sell the boat. It was still at his folks house. It was expensive. We never used it (being out of state). We now had twins on the way. It was time...
Enter my in-laws. They couldn't bear for G-man to give up the boat (poor G-man....he was married to the Devil Incarnate....and she was pure evil and he never got anything). They paid off the boat loan, which was about $5,000 at that time.
So now we owned the boat out right. And then I figured out that just in our married life....not counting the time before....just in the years since we said "I do," we had spent over $20,000 on the boat. And he wondered why I was upset....
After my father in law passed away last year, my mother in law insisted we take the boat. It was deteriorating, and there wasn't anyone to take care of it. By this point, we had a car that could tow it (see stage left....G-man's car loan....). We owned our house. We still don't have time for it...but now we had space.
So, on my driveway sits....the boat. All 19 feet of it. With its registration, and boater's safety course, and gas guzzling engine.
He won't sell it. I have tried every which way to convince him. The fact is, the boat is 14 years old, and resale value is next to nothing. Even if we did get a few hundred for it...maybe $1000...it would be YEARS before we could get another one. And he isn't willing to do that. I see $1000 toward debt....he sees years of not getting anything he wants.
So now I deal with the boat. He claims that the boat is a motivator.....he will get his "chores" done, so he can go out and play. I think he will take the boat out, and tell me "that won't take long....I will do it when I get back." I swear, there are days I think I am married to a 12 year old!.