Maybe it is just hormones.
But.....gosh am I cranky today.
My beautiful son has a habit of playing with the remote control. Specifically....he rewinds shows while he is watching it. Doesn't care that other people are sitting there. This is an ongoing behavior that we have spent years trying to break. I was forced to get out of bed to deal with the arguing. Not the best way to start your day.
G-man is coming back from guy weekend this afternoon. I hope he had a LOT of fun, as this trip was extremely expensive. Coming in at just under $600 for only 36 hrs of "fun" (all the rest of the time was travel), this will be his last trip for a very long time.
My mental plan of what I was going to get done, and the physical manifestation of that plan are night and day. As soon as I am done
My mother-in-law is "supposed" to come for Christmas (we have been talking about this since mid July). But she hasn't made her arrangements. I checked the fares, and they are going up. The longer she waits, the higher they will go and my prediction is that it will get to a point where she won't want to pay it....and she will cancel. If she doesn't want to come...just tell us. But meanwhile, this is really getting under my skin. And G-man is defending her. The kids know she is supposed to come (they heard us talking). So I really don't want to have to tell them yet again that a grandparent isn't coming to visit (I think our tally is up to 5 times between her and my parents).
I hate my hair. It hasn't been cut since before Christmas. I miss my highlights.
OK, time to put my big girl panties on and deal with my day......
Goodness! My third child does the same thing. It is quite vexing. In my more frugal days, we only had one dish control. Man, did the brood learn to get along, because we could override the channel from our bedroom.
ReplyDeleteIn -laws. Equally vexing. I would simply phone and say words to the effect of, "Here are our plans let me know by Saturday if you are coming, because I am setting these in stone by then, and we won't be free to pick you up at the airport." I also mentally freed myself from my mil 's similar behavior. As my mother told me when I martied YOU are the matriarch in your house. With my mil, she left us hanging almost to have us urge her to come...to see how much we wanted her. Not saying yours is the same but refusing to play along made holidays much nicer for us all. Again, YOU are the matriarch in your house. What you say goes in terms of celebrations. (And I hope I am as gracious in this regard to my daughter as my mother was to me!)
Do we have the same MIL? Mine hasn't been here in 4 years. Too busy with her own life. I have put my foot down as the Woman of THIS house....and boy that goes over well. My husband lets her get away with stuff, and because he is her darling baby boy......
DeleteMy MIL has been nothing but rotten to me since before we got married. Luckily, being 400 miles away has helped!
$600 for a weekend! YIKES!!!!!! No wonder you feel cranky. I had to purchase a new stove yesterday as the part for my 10 year old one was $480 without tax or installation. I was cranky all day after ordering the new one. One step forward...10 steps back. Yay.
ReplyDeleteThe part for our 20+ year stove isn't even made anymore! So I feel ya....we got our stove in August.
DeleteI like Meg's idea... give them a deadline to let you know and put the ball back in their yard and out of yours. If the deadline passes, then that's that. No more worrying. If they whine about it, which they will even though they know the reasons are valid enough (scheduling airport pick up and activities, and letting the kids know ahead of time), just be nice about it and re-remind them. Once the deadline goes, confirm their choice or lack of thereof and leave it at that. I find that treating certain people with a business demeanor works best.
ReplyDeleteRemember....this is G-man's mom, and he sides with her. I can put my foot down all I like, and he will go around me for his mom. She is already not nice to me...it will just make it worse.
DeleteIf it were my parents, I would have no problem (at this point!) saying too bad. But with MIL, G-man will accomodate her every time.
Ooooh! Someone needs more coffee of chocolate, which one is it? Sorry about your back, just rest, that house will be waiting for you trust me no one else is going to do it. Oh dear I am supposed to be making you feel better......
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