This was my post from exactly one year ago. So, where are we now....
Still together. Have our good days and our bad days. At this point, issues aren't about the affair anymore....it is just poor communication. And it extends into all areas of our life.
It is frustrating to all get out. I am tired of it. But we are trying. I am trying to realize that there may be parts that will never change, and I may have to learn to live with it, or.......
So no Happy Valentine's Day for me. Never again. I got the kids a few things, and they were happy. I am trying to pretend for their sake today.
I just want the grand gesture. The big thing that says....you are special. I chose you above all others and always will. I have told him this....time and time again. Nothing. It isn't about money....although I am sure if we didn't have this debt, he would figure an expensive bobble would do the trick. But that isn't it....I need to know that the majority of my adult life hasn't been wasted.
ETA: My parents called to tell me that they sent the kids some candy. Apparently they overnighted it, and spent $33 to ship it. Now...these are the same parents who couldn't be bothered to call me back on my birthday when I wasn't home. But I called them to make sure there wasn't something else in the box, that they spent $33 shipping it. This was what I was told:
You are too old for us to buy you stuff for Valentine's Day. You can buy yourself something. And added "Happy Valentine's Day, my love."
The kicker...."my love" is what G-man's "friend" used to call him.