As much as it stinks that others have been through this party mess....it does make me feel a little better that I am not alone in this!!!
As a final note on Sassy....we talked to her last night and it went better than expected. She was disappointed, but still liked the idea that it was HER day. She decided that she wanted to go to lunch and a movie, and to invite her friend K along (the one who had the allergies). And she would like DADDY to take them. Yeah....that one stung a little. But this is about her, not me.
And on to the Bossy Mess....
We decided to invite all the boys in his class (6, not including Bossy). After much discussion with his teacher, she finally agreed to send home the invites.
I know one mom from PTA, so I talked to her at an event, and told me her son would be coming. Great. Then we never heard from any of the remaining 5 boys. At all.
His teacher called late last week on an unrelated matter, and I confirmed that all the invitations went out. When I told her that I only heard from 1 parent, her response was "well, that is a shame." And this launched into a discussion about how she can't control if the kids gave the invitation to their parents...that they may still be in the backpacks. And when I asked if she could just double check and if she found any, please remind that child to give them to parents...she didn't agree or disagree to do it.
By Monday night we still hadn't heard from anyone. So we wrote a follow-up note and sent it into school. I do have to say I felt like a bit of a tool. I felt like I was begging these kids to come. But we needed to order the cake, the trophies (in lieu of a goody bag).
I ran into another Mom last night, who told me that she just got the invite because her son never gave it to her. She felt bad, but her son couldn't come because of sports. She said if she had it 2 weeks ago when we sent it out, she could have arranged for him not to play this week. She said the kid was bummed because when he saw it was a bowling party, he wanted to go.
This morning we did actually get an RSVP that the kid is coming!!!!! I invited my friend and her son (who is only 4) more out of obligation than anything else. And even with her I had to follow up and see if they were coming. So we are up to 3 kids coming (other than my 2) out of 7 invited.
His party will in the end be fine. With the adults, there will be a good showing. He will be fine with it all. In his world, there is no difference between 1 kid and 10 kids. He will just be happy to be there and bowl.
I am still amazed at all of this.....