(G-man and I have basically resolved that this is going to happen. There is NOTHING to say it isn't. We are just waiting for the call....)
We had a realtor come in on Saturday morning, and after he left....Sassy flat out asked me if we were moving. While I really wanted G-man there for this discussion (he was at work), I felt like I should answer her. So the kids and I sat on the couch and talked.
Sassy got teary-eyed. Not a surprise. Bossy asked if the cats were coming with us (YES!). Not a surprise. I told them both that while this will be scary for everyone, grown-ups included....that Dad and I feel this is the right move for our family. We talked about all the positive things about moving, in no particular order.
- It is warmer there (and it doesn't really snow)
- We will probably have a bigger house
- Closer to Grandparents (while that is not a selling point for ME, it is for them)
- Meeting new friends
- Dad will have a regular M-F, 9-5 schedule, and be home on weekends
I didn't get into anything financial with them per se. I don't want them to worry. Basically I just said that in the long term, Dad and I feel that we will be able to have a better life for all of us.
Bossy needs things that are more "concrete" so he is very thrown off. I wish I could tell him we are leaving on THIS DATE, but I can't. He also is concerned about all of our "stuff" and asked me all day long "is XYZ coming with us?". Most of his questions I can understand (the cats, his bed, clothes). I didn't understand why he asked if the fridge was coming.....but he seemed ok leaving it here and that we will have a new fridge at the new house.
Sassy spend most of the day quiet, but by dinner announced that she can think of more pros than cons about moving, so she is ok with it.
We also talked about getting rid of stuff we don't need/want anymore. I was trying to balance the line between reassurance that their stuff will move to a new house, and we aren't taking every little scrap of paper in existence. I am hoping as we start boxing up stuff and they see that their important stuff is going in the boxes that are coming with us, they will be ok.
I really didn't want to tell them just yet, and I really wanted G-man there, but you don't always get what you want (ain't that the truth.....). But we need to get going on what we need to do if we have any hopes of moving as a family within 90 days. And the kids are part of that. They are going to need to help with packing their stuff, cleaning (to a degree), maintaining the house while it is on the market....and most importantly, understanding that things are going to be crazy and busy for awhile.
Step by step, this is becoming more real.....