I have no idea where last week went! It was our first week of summer vacation, and G-man was home during the day, so we found ourselves in a slightly different schedule. Oh well!
Today I am going to share with you the story of how we didn't buy a patio set.
Between G-man's bonus, and a few other things, we had $828 in money available to us for whatever. While I wanted to split it $700 to debt, and $128 to "fun"....eventually I conceded to a 50/50 split. So now we had $414 in "fun" money.
We invited some friends over for dinner (which was last weekend, and was so much fun....even without a patio set!), and through a casual comment on my part....started a 3 week "discussion" about a patio set. All I said was "we have to figure out chairs and tables." I should have known better. As soon as G-man hears stuff like that, he gets hung up on it. Admittedly, I sometimes don't help the situation and come along for the ride.
All of a sudden, we were looking at patio sets on-line. G-man would stop at various stores and look. He would send me pictures of stuff he found. It became clear very quickly we weren't on the same page on this...not just on the purchase, but what we would even consider purchasing.
Eventually I found a smaller set that I liked. He liked it. Then he was on a mission to go find this set in person to try it out. He called 3 different stores, and no one would pick up the phone in the department. So he decided to go to all of these stores. Yes, he spent a good portion of a day driving from store to store. He found it in the one store that I would have never have guessed would have it on the floor.
I was tired of talking about this, and I was ready to give in and just say get the darn thing. And then G-man said the smartest thing he had said in the 3 weeks of discussing this: I want you go see it before we buy it.
He stopped. He got off of the roller coaster of "new and shiny" and let it all settle. This allowed me time to think about this, and decide if "I" even wanted this purchase.
Speaking purely for myself....I wanted it in the moment I first mentioned it weeks ago.....and it waned. I wanted it when I found the set on line......and it waned. The bottom line was I really didn't want it. Now the question I had to pose to G-man was if he really wanted this.
When I met him at the store after work, he was all excited. We sat at the table, and it was a nice enough set. It was comfy. It would fit the space. I could see us hanging out on the deck. But was this the best use of money??
I asked G-man why he wanted the set, and he described all the attributes of the set. But when I asked him why he wanted ANY set...he didn't have an answer. It was really more about getting caught up in the moment and wanting something new and shiny. And when I said is this one larger purchase a better use of money over, say....3 smaller purchases....he didn't really know.
Ultimately, we decided that the smaller purchases would probably bring us more "enjoyment" over this particular larger purchase. And we walked away.
Our friends came over, and we used our folding tables with Dollar Store tablecloths to put all the food out. The kids sat in the yard on resin chairs (which were in our basement and only needed a good rinsing). The adults sat on the deck chairs we had and ate on our laps. It was fine. It was a casual hanging out evening and I hope we will be able to do it again soon.
So back to the money for a minute....all of our purchases are on hold for the moment. Life changes...and until it settles again, I am not pulling the trigger on anything. In theory, we have about $1500 to throw toward the car as a snowball, plus the "fun" money to spend. We have "extra" money that we didn't use for camp and planned to use to help do some family fun things. But all of it is on hold.....
Stay tuned. ;)