I have no idea why I am continually amazed at the drama I call my family. And this, ladies and gentlemen, not only involves my immediate family...but also further branches off the ole family tree.
Sunday night, I got a "paperless" invite to the wedding of my dad's cousin's daughter (for you genealogy geeks, that makes the bride my 2nd cousin). The wedding....is in 3 weeks. See, the bride (who is in her mid 20's) had a baby with the groom 4 years ago. They have been engaged for over 3 years. People stopped asking when they were getting married a long time ago. But apparently they are getting married in 3 weeks. I am guessing that she is pregnant again, and her parents (did I mention that her father is a Rabbi???) said YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED.
The kids aren't invited to the wedding, and it is on a Sunday morning (when G-man works, and gets a 25% bonus for working). I already figured out that it is cheaper to get a sitter for a few hours than have G-man stay home. I would just go to the service and skip the reception.
Except...I don't want to go. I have no relationship with the bride (I think I have seen her 3 times in 10 years). I think we got an invite because it is the obligatory "family" thing. So, I am leaning towards declining all together, sending a gift, and calling it a day.
EXCEPT....I have no idea if my parents are going! If my parents fly up for this (which opens all sorts of other Pandora's Boxes), and I am not going...that looks really bad. And the 'rents will take it out on me....
Normally I wouldn't think they would come to this....except that the bride's younger sister has her Bat Mitzvah in April. And I know my parents were planning on going to that. So they may say "if we go to one, we have to go to the other."
Which, by default....puts me in the same category. I can't skip the wedding...and go to the Bat Mitzvah. I really want to skip both. But not sure if I can get away with that.
I have nothing to wear to a wedding (all my "wedding" clothes are not season appropriate or Sunday morning appropriate). So I would have to buy something to wear. Plus the gift. Plus the sitter. I could be into this for $200 by the time I am done....for a wedding I don't want to go to.
Anyone think I can just send a gift and call it a day? Even if my parents come?
OH, which also brings up that my dad's birthday is the day after the wedding, and my dad doesn't make haste in making sure we all celebrate him. AND Bossy has some testing being conducted the Friday before, so even if my parents come up that day....I am otherwise detained. Which I am sure I will hear about as well.