Things are still tense, and he currently isn't living here. He seems to think we can squeeze blood from a turnip. I know I shouldn't post this....but here goes (to some degree).
He is trying to find "extra" money to pay rent in our marital budget. He asked me where we can pull money from. I told him....uh, nowhere. I am angry that he thinks that his actions should result in a ME figuring out how to pay for it. So I said...fine....let's start from scratch.
He is completely clueless. And one of MY steps towards change is having to give up some control. So instead of just working on the budget myself, WE will do it. The only place I can really see where there is to "pull" from is our Christmas Fund. And I told him that I do not want the kids to pay for his mistakes.
He has agreed to work some extra shifts.....amazing how he is NOW willing to do it. When I have suggested it in the past as a way of generating extra income to GET OUT OF DEBT....he wasn't willing. Why should he have to do any more than he was....
So tonight.....when you feel that cold rush around you....and you just are feeling that something is off balance in the world....that is probably the JuJu seeping out from my house.
Wow....he had no idea what things cost. Food...he said $250 a month for the family. HAHAHA. Gas...he said $300.....it WAS $400 before the prices went up....now we are closer to $450. He forgot some major expenses.
I think the small exercise did help some. He sees that this isn't easy. He sees that every dollar is obligated to something.
End result....he needs to work a minimum of 8 hrs of overtime a month, above and beyond his office and part time jobs....to pay his "rent." I showed him how much money that is...and if he had just done this before....when we talked about it in regards to debt....that we would be in a much different place right now.
He and I are trying to work things out....I am still not sure. We did talk about him moving home, just from a money point of view. I would love to have that OT to put toward debt! But there are more things to discuss. Will let you all know if I can.