I appreciate all the good thoughts and well wishes....
We met with a realtor, and unfortunately G-man wasn't clear what we needed and what we were trying to do, so the realtor wasn't as prepared as I thought she would be. This is totally on G-man...when he called, he failed to tell her that we may be relocating, and the time line. He just told her we were thinking of selling.
Anyway, we did the tour of the house and the good news is that she thinks it is a cute house, good structure. We told her what things we thought we needed to do to get ready to sell and she agreed with them. She had a couple of other suggestions, but nothing that was a make or break item (add handrail to attic steps; repaint hallway to lighter color, but that is just to brighten it up, not because it needs to be painted.)
The bad news....although Zillow has our house at 209k right now, she thinks that may be way out of whack. She is going to do a market analysis for us, but based on our conversation....we may not even have enough to pay off our current mortgage once you factor in all the fees. Our mortgage is 180k. She said the first 6 months of the year were brutal for selling, so the comps may be very low.
So now we are flipping out on multiple levels....we need to make some money to put toward a new house.....we don't want to still owe money on a house we won't even own anymore or do a short sale and wreck our credit (and one thing I read said that we couldn't apply for a new mortgage for 5 years???)
We are going to also explore renting out our house, but we need to cover our expenses, and not sure that would happen....so we would still be paying on this house. Plus, we would be long distance landlords. Not ideal in any sense.
Even if we eeeked it out....we would have nothing for a new house. I looked at rentals and the least expensive rental for a 3 bedroom, was a townhouse for $1500. And then we would be tied to a very small area to buy when we could, because we will not move the kids into yet ANOTHER school.
We are completely in uncharted territory.
PLUS, if he gets the job, he has to be there in 90 days. If we can't sell/buy in that time....then he goes without us, and then we are looking at having to pay for a place for him to live (or deal with the disaster that is my parents)....and we will still need to pay our CT bills, but now we will be living on a NC salary.
LOTS of things in play.
The interview went alright. Being a phone interview, he didn't have the opportunity to read facial expressions or body language. He said it was very cut and dry: they asked a question, he answered. Rinse and repeat. There were a few questions that I think he could have answered better, but what is done is done. There is nothing more for use to do on our end.
G-man mailed them a thank you card for the opportunity to interview. I know it won't make a difference, but it is the right thing to do.
We aren't sure when they will make a decision. We are "guessing" that by tomorrow they will have selected the candidates. Then it goes to the head honcho to sign off on, and then back to HR to make an offer. At the warp speed this has been moving....we could know as early as Monday or Tuesday. But probably by the end of next week.
ETA: We got a little for clarification on our time line. While it is possible we will know next week, it could take a few weeks if candidates or management are out of the office. Inside scoop said it is a good sign if his references are contacted. The Administration Officer at our current office is really pulling for us. She will let G-man know if she is called.
Meanwhile...we are entering into the 2 week period of time of emotional chaos for me, so I am prickly already. I am trying to keep it all together. But it is really hard.