tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post9040697269841177633..comments2023-09-02T07:09:34.264-04:00Comments on Digging Out From Our Mess: When The Well Runs DryMystihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-77803102231402613592011-07-02T19:26:24.961-04:002011-07-02T19:26:24.961-04:00My "guilty pleasures" are just about to ...My "guilty pleasures" are just about to start...Big Brother and Bachelor Pad:)Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06380362348365415129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-32295464978224131082011-02-08T12:44:11.727-05:002011-02-08T12:44:11.727-05:00We went through this a few years ago in my family....We went through this a few years ago in my family. To tell you the truth I sat my husband down and told him to "man up". This was his life to, and while I was sorry he was "sad" I wasn't able to carry everything myself(now know that my husband was just sad..not depressed or anything). <br /><br />I went and spent a day by myself to recharge. When I got home I sat all the kids down and told them that I was not tolerating anything like this anymore. If they wanted to act this way well then there would be consequences. I wouldn't yell scream or argue. They would be grounded to their room, I would take away all phones, all computer time, anything that they enjoyed. And I did it, I stuck to my guns and after the first or second time, their behavior changed. Since they weren't getting the reactions they wanted just the punishment. <br /><br />My husband did man up when he realized I meant it.<br /><br />Hope it gets better for you<br />JudyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-30453953283674535172011-02-08T10:08:48.380-05:002011-02-08T10:08:48.380-05:00Sorry to hear that things feel so bleak. :( It w...Sorry to hear that things feel so bleak. :( It will get better....just try to power through :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-3352550159809106482011-02-07T21:28:27.872-05:002011-02-07T21:28:27.872-05:00I was feeling like that last fall... I called it &...I was feeling like that last fall... I called it "overdrawn in my sanity account".<br /><br />What I really needed was time off work to focus on my crumbling family life. My kids were behaving horribly and were in need of loving and consistent discipline, I felt so behind with everything at home - laundry, organization, cleaning, cooking, baking, etc..., It was easier to toss the kids a handful of cookies for snack rather than cut up fresh fruit and veggies - all that processed sugar didn't make their behaviours better. At work things were overly busy and stressful and I'd come home feeling completely emotionally spent. My kids needed help with school work and I didn't have an ounce of energy to do that with them. Christmas was coming, shopping needed to be done and I couldn't think of what to buy people. My father is sick and dying, and my mother is stressed and needs my attention and time to stay with my dad so she can get a break AND to vent to me about how stressful it is to watch him in this condition. I was just WAY too stressed to carry on. I decided to take a hit on the budget and I cut my hours at work in half. It was the best thing I ever did. Yes, the budget is tight and we aren't saving much right now, but I've finally, almost got my head back to water level... I was so totally drowning! At least now I get a few hours a week alone to do nothing, and it feels great though I do still feel guilty about "wasting time".<br /><br />Can you take a bit of time off work? Can you find a way to block some time away from your kids once a week? Do you have a close friend or family member who can help with some of the kid chores or household chores? Can you pay for help?Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01748705005786498840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-71906323803375315802011-02-07T19:39:19.133-05:002011-02-07T19:39:19.133-05:00sometimes, when I am in just a really foul mood, I...sometimes, when I am in just a really foul mood, I order takeout, rent a movie, and splurge on dessert. I know this probably won't help with the weight loss, but the diet always starts the next day, right? <br />i don't know how much weight I've gained since Christmas, all I know is that I still don't fit into my jeans, and I keep wearing leggings...Newlyweds on a Budgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10165059665185786849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-82526973418779858722011-02-07T17:27:26.952-05:002011-02-07T17:27:26.952-05:00Wow. You obviously need a break. Is there anythi...Wow. You obviously need a break. Is there anything good right now in your life? Maybe find a way to see the positives. I made a list one time, long ago, of all the things that were driving me nuts. Then I carried it around in my wallet so no one would see it and slowly I was able to cross the things off. Because either they got better or stopped annoying me so much.Shellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-75974009944734974452011-02-07T14:35:09.395-05:002011-02-07T14:35:09.395-05:00Oh I'm so sorry. Why do women have to shoulde...Oh I'm so sorry. Why do women have to shoulder it all? I usually lock myself in my bathroom and take a long, hot bubble bath. It de-stresses me, and alone time is so needed. Maybe it's time for you to just have some "me" time. It could be as simple as taking a full day and going to a bookstore and sipping coffee and reading anything you please. Or maybe, instead of your MIL going to Cancun, you can! :)! Look out for yourself first, so then you are able to help your family out second. Sending *hugs* your way!!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13940623529019637336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-28412446793056554662011-02-07T13:08:52.979-05:002011-02-07T13:08:52.979-05:00When I hit a wall, I hit back, meaning I have to r...When I hit a wall, I hit back, meaning I have to re-adjust something in my life. <br />PS - G-Man needs a good kick in the butt!Rhitter94https://www.blogger.com/profile/14730386238190105989noreply@blogger.com