tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post5588916267812626768..comments2023-09-02T07:09:34.264-04:00Comments on Digging Out From Our Mess: Just a Quick HiMystihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-86419826610216283342014-11-26T13:51:09.025-05:002014-11-26T13:51:09.025-05:00I'm so happy to hear from you!! Sorry the hous...I'm so happy to hear from you!! Sorry the house hasn't sold yet but I'm sure it will! Don't stress being alone with the kids too much-- try and change the perspective so that it's an adventure. It'll help all of you out. And maybe since you're shelving a bunch of traditions you can come up with a couple of very special limited edition one year only traditions. Just to change it up a bit and not be totally in a funk. Good luck! Email me whenever!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-43395603440487557872014-11-24T20:35:46.338-05:002014-11-24T20:35:46.338-05:00Thank you for the update! Praying that your house...Thank you for the update! Praying that your house sells soon!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13940623529019637336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-80733675480029045272014-11-22T17:28:01.235-05:002014-11-22T17:28:01.235-05:00Happy to hear from you, sad the house hasn't s...Happy to hear from you, sad the house hasn't sold. Hoping things look up soon for you :)-Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08190834507819992504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-90607274625075773892014-11-19T14:19:08.211-05:002014-11-19T14:19:08.211-05:00Thank you for all those excellent ideas...esp the ...Thank you for all those excellent ideas...esp the POA!Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-23695827559678336472014-11-19T13:55:41.809-05:002014-11-19T13:55:41.809-05:00Sorry to hear that your house didn't sell. As ...Sorry to hear that your house didn't sell. As a military wife, I am no stranger to long distances nor are my friends. I have a friend whose husband is in Korea for a year and she and her 2 children (both under 5 years old) are back home in the U.S. (This isn't meant to come off as a sob story or a "look how tough the military has it"- just facts and I guess stating my experience with long distance :0) ) A big thing is communication. I would suggest making a scheduled skype /face time date for you and the kids. Maybe pick a specific time every day or week. I would also consider sending little care packages. It doesn't have to be anything special maybe some local items that he can't get in NC just to let you know you care every once in a while. Letter writing has become outdated I know but it shows that you took the time to let him know how you are doing. Getting a letter in the mail from you might be nice. It reminds them that they have not been forgotten and you are thinking about them. I know my one friend tries to document/ make videos of events that her husband might miss out in. In your case, if your son or daughter has an awards ceremony or maybe a special event. Maybe if they get a good grade on a paper or a large assignment you could send him a copy. Just little things like that might help him to stay connected to what is going on back home. One other thing, if you don't have one in place I would highly suggest getting a Power of Attorney for his affairs. You might not think about it but little things might pop up that you will need to have the ability to sign for him (taxes are the first thing I can think of if you go somewhere to get them done, contracts, insurance, etc.) I used my POA several times when my husband was deployed. Granted you will be able to contact your husband a lot easier but it might just come in handy. Hope some of these ideas help. It is tough but knowing that your husband is safe and making this change for your family will help to keep things in perspective. Just remember that not every day will be easy, some days it will seem like one thing after another is happening to you, but you are strong and you will get through it. It is ok to get angry or annoyed- doing it on your own isn't easy but it will be worth it in the long run. When things seem to be going wrong just take a deep breath and allow yourself to take a break. This will also be a good time to start giving your children some more responsibilities (if possible) and explain how you will need their help as well in order to help keep things running smoothly. Good luck! smart sorority girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10065509176826564963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-23982497179836415932014-11-19T06:37:45.751-05:002014-11-19T06:37:45.751-05:00Our realtor started out so gung ho and it fizzled ...Our realtor started out so gung ho and it fizzled quickly. Now we only hear from him if we initiate it. All he tells us is that it is a tough market. I don't want to trash him, but he isn't the one for us.<br /><br />I would love any advice on the long distance marriage/kids! How long were you apart?<br /><br />Feel free to email me at mysti1031 AT yahoo DOT com if you don't want to rehash it all here!Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-90543945645316614522014-11-19T06:27:08.668-05:002014-11-19T06:27:08.668-05:00My realtor was furious that he could not have a ke...My realtor was furious that he could not have a key to come and go as he pleased. My three children and I were living here while my husband had moved to a new job. I often left my daughter here while I ran to the store for an item or two, taking the baby and older son was at a friend's house. My daughter always just took a nap. I did not want someone walking in on her in bed or with just the older child watching the others. He did not like me anyway since I was taking the claw foot tub and he lied about that being illegal.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14991571309786149363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-17194828712114482882014-11-19T06:25:55.259-05:002014-11-19T06:25:55.259-05:00It wasn't even our realtor who showed the hous...It wasn't even our realtor who showed the house! I could go on and on about our complaints about the realtor, but we have a contract with him until March. The plan is to not renew with him when we put the house back on the market. He has failed to follow through on just about everything.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-32000273535738410362014-11-19T06:22:11.973-05:002014-11-19T06:22:11.973-05:00People will complain about things JUST to get you ...People will complain about things JUST to get you to drop your price. Or, they don't want you to think they cannot afford the house by making you feel bad about what you cannot change. If the realtor has only showed your house once, it is time to get a new realtor.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14991571309786149363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-3305476891969740932014-11-18T20:43:03.896-05:002014-11-18T20:43:03.896-05:00I've missed your updates as well. Sounds like ...I've missed your updates as well. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Hoping all works out in your favor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-63289430045335533182014-11-18T19:52:19.601-05:002014-11-18T19:52:19.601-05:00I've missed your blogging. That's a super...I've missed your blogging. That's a super bummer about your house but I have confidence that this whole situation will work out in your favor in the long run.Nd.chichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09918828872616125907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-38846017414678520212014-11-18T18:15:36.908-05:002014-11-18T18:15:36.908-05:00We are appointment only now. Because the kids are...We are appointment only now. Because the kids are alone at times, we can't have people just walk in. If we keep it on the market through the winter, all that will happen is we increase days on the market. The longer it is on the market. ..the less likely we are to sell because people will think something is wrong with it. Or they will low ball the offer.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-67388729915290116442014-11-18T17:25:31.377-05:002014-11-18T17:25:31.377-05:00I'm so glad you posted an update! Sorry that y...I'm so glad you posted an update! Sorry that you weren't able to bring better news, but glad that overall everything is going ok. Hope you're doing well. It'll all work out in the end. Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18092932494121193148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-72333554086450116092014-11-18T16:49:04.969-05:002014-11-18T16:49:04.969-05:00I was told that the people who are looking at hous...I was told that the people who are looking at houses this time of the year are the ones that need to buy, I wouldn't take it off the market but I would only do showing by appointment only, you never know, you might get luck that way. I've check back every couple days, it was good to see you posted something. Take care and good luck. DRidgelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07894807109773896652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-87797513268914390192014-11-18T13:51:06.285-05:002014-11-18T13:51:06.285-05:00Nothing to do to the house. The negatives are all...Nothing to do to the house. The negatives are all things we can't control. People want a totally upgraded house...they don't want to do the work.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-60812295747299632852014-11-18T13:22:53.425-05:002014-11-18T13:22:53.425-05:00Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. I t...Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. I think about you all the time. This just sucks. I will pray that things turn out better. Keep your spirits up I know it is hard. I wish I could do something. to help. We will talk later about the house, are there things your realtor suggested you do?Out My windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456481267171643227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-20325392718034536512014-11-18T12:39:03.858-05:002014-11-18T12:39:03.858-05:00Thanks for the update! It's good to hear from ...Thanks for the update! It's good to hear from you. Super bummer on the house. I'm sure something will work out. Selling a house is tough. And everybody wants champagne features on a beer budget. And then some. Sending happy thoughts your way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08336588537825652241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-29321355165759774362014-11-18T12:18:04.216-05:002014-11-18T12:18:04.216-05:00Yes, way too far. 800 miles, and anywhere from 13...Yes, way too far. 800 miles, and anywhere from 13-15 hrs drive time, without traffic. Each way.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-72645687933397972542014-11-18T12:10:12.413-05:002014-11-18T12:10:12.413-05:00Hope things go okay with him living with your pare...Hope things go okay with him living with your parents. Is it too far for your husband to drive home for Christmas? <br /><br />Spring is the best time to sell usually so hopefully that proves true for you.<br /><br />Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00948148571415167380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-52786570087693228012014-11-18T10:33:00.755-05:002014-11-18T10:33:00.755-05:00So glad you updated us. I hope things work out. So glad you updated us. I hope things work out. Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02245921501363936089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-23667409532075383222014-11-18T09:16:25.157-05:002014-11-18T09:16:25.157-05:00We have limited room to lower the price. I should...We have limited room to lower the price. I should have put in that we will probably drop the price about 4k in the spring. However, that only gives us 5k room of negotiation to the bottom price we can take to just clear the mortgage. At that price....we walk away with nothing, which we are ok with. We just can't bring money to the closing table.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-74845407774566101622014-11-18T08:40:50.905-05:002014-11-18T08:40:50.905-05:00I am sorry. People want everything when they buy ...I am sorry. People want everything when they buy a house and try and nickle and dime you to death.<br />Is there any way to cut the price of the house considering that you will need to pay for your dh to live away from you? CherylCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03532160415343676858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-4793705600701312632014-11-18T08:21:36.809-05:002014-11-18T08:21:36.809-05:00I am really happy you updated us! I really miss y...I am really happy you updated us! I really miss your posts....Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05565505196725239716noreply@blogger.com