tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post4627024346647218443..comments2023-09-02T07:09:34.264-04:00Comments on Digging Out From Our Mess: Home Again, Home AgainMystihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-1600452040368422272012-11-14T01:23:18.966-05:002012-11-14T01:23:18.966-05:00Mysti I am so sorry. I really wanted this to go d...Mysti I am so sorry. I really wanted this to go differently for you and for you to find some peace, but maybe in your own way you have. <br /><br />Just realize that you are a great mom, your kids love you and sometimes no matter what you cant make people change no matter how much it hurts.<br /><br />j udyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03899060198377746353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-89783022511677005732012-11-13T04:36:02.235-05:002012-11-13T04:36:02.235-05:00((hugs)) you've done really well to get throu...((hugs)) you've done really well to get through it all and maintain your composure and dignity. You're a good mum Mysti. I hope now you can get a bit of a break from the stress, a bit of pampering perhaps and a stress free christmas period.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08524541468790905722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-68182053793458381362012-11-12T20:48:05.064-05:002012-11-12T20:48:05.064-05:00It's not sad that they behaved that way, becau...It's not sad that they behaved that way, because they are what they are. It's sad that you didn't get decent parents in the first place. You deserved better. You've managed to be a really good mom to your own kids despite that. <br /><br />And it's over. Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07382434220023284946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-55526231159190560732012-11-12T20:30:28.771-05:002012-11-12T20:30:28.771-05:00I am so sorry, but you have made the effort so it ...I am so sorry, but you have made the effort so it is up to them to make the next move. You can pick your friends but you're stuck with your family, I totally sympathize..<br /><br />GillGill - That British Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456247587052149765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-38664160246919284332012-11-12T18:22:39.222-05:002012-11-12T18:22:39.222-05:00What does that matter? We live 800 miles away an...What does that matter? We live 800 miles away and haven't spent Thanksgiving with them in 10 yrs. We do all holidays on our own. No one comes to see us, and the only time we traveled was when my father in law was dying.<br /><br />My kids don't know that most people spend holidays with family. It isn't the world they live in.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-72085760423166750122012-11-12T18:18:31.726-05:002012-11-12T18:18:31.726-05:00You are aware thanksgiving is coming up right?!You are aware thanksgiving is coming up right?!HS @ Our Debt Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16131857251377260758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-24553567151254429432012-11-12T13:30:45.943-05:002012-11-12T13:30:45.943-05:00Not sure what can be said that you don't alrea...Not sure what can be said that you don't already know. You're a great parent, spouse and friend. You can't make other people act any certain way. If your parents wont recognize or appreciate you, sadly, that's it and that's that. You can continue to do your part, but if the lack of appreciation hurts (and it does, trust me), then just do what you can and move on. It is absolutely not worth it. It's an uphill climb that doesn't end, and you don't need their approval anymore. Some people just can't be pleased. I stopped trying to please my parents way too long ago, and though I still care for them, I'm painfully aware this is a one way street most of the way. Glad you made it back! Give yourself a treat for surviving that and back to that laundry-machine 'normal' setting you've spoken about.Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-616736734704024672012-11-12T13:19:28.498-05:002012-11-12T13:19:28.498-05:00oh yes, that is a good reason, I mist have missed ...oh yes, that is a good reason, I mist have missed that post! So sorry they couldn't enjoy you all being there for their anniversaryOne Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00369132659573259613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-64078851534081164392012-11-12T13:17:58.613-05:002012-11-12T13:17:58.613-05:00It is ok...nothing happened that I didn't expe...It is ok...nothing happened that I didn't expect.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-35895636912008480952012-11-12T13:17:32.705-05:002012-11-12T13:17:32.705-05:00I will always love my parents, but I can't dea...I will always love my parents, but I can't deal with them anymore. My parents are only in their 60's....but they act more like 80.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-7780468947811085722012-11-12T13:16:25.682-05:002012-11-12T13:16:25.682-05:00It was my parent's 40th anniversary, and it wa...It was my parent's 40th anniversary, and it was one of the only times both my brother and I could go at the same time.<br /><br />Additionally, there have been several things that have happened in the past 6 months that made it necessary to have some "discussions" sooner than later.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-3420096883568234702012-11-12T13:08:35.009-05:002012-11-12T13:08:35.009-05:00Did I miss an earlier post where you explained why...Did I miss an earlier post where you explained why it was important to go at this time, when you didn't have the money and knowing (mostly likely) that they would treat you like this? Not trying to be mean or judgmental, I guess I was just wondering why you would spend that kind of money unless it was a very important reason to be there and go through having yourself and your family treated like that.One Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00369132659573259613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-11074010160105136482012-11-12T12:11:20.795-05:002012-11-12T12:11:20.795-05:00Well at least you went & did what you wanted t...Well at least you went & did what you wanted to do... Sorry that you don't feel any better about things with your parents... :( ~Carla~https://www.blogger.com/profile/02341057469246030024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-57605415855914861782012-11-12T11:15:56.212-05:002012-11-12T11:15:56.212-05:00My mom too is changing. She seldom gets around an...My mom too is changing. She seldom gets around and we have to make her bathe. I think she is just really depressed after her hear attacks and has no energy. But I think depression is the real culprit and you as the child cannot make them help themselves. I am so sorry. This is so hard, but you did the right thing. You went you loved them as much s they allowed and that is what they wanted. You are a good daughter even if they make you feel other wise. Out My windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456481267171643227noreply@blogger.com