tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post1451227797445115697..comments2023-09-02T07:09:34.264-04:00Comments on Digging Out From Our Mess: Vacation?Mystihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-63680948622625507792012-07-25T07:27:26.151-04:002012-07-25T07:27:26.151-04:00I haven't visited in awhile but I am so glad t...I haven't visited in awhile but I am so glad to see you guys still working hard to get out of debt!! BTW I would fly... Sometimes it's necessary to pause and take care of life then go back to getting out of debt. We will be praying for your journey with getting out of debt and visiting your parents. Blessings~ GillianGoose and Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07897481985424600588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-70710027086582219722012-07-24T23:49:27.234-04:002012-07-24T23:49:27.234-04:00Fly, it is worth it in the long run.Fly, it is worth it in the long run.Out My windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456481267171643227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-26568740728996119552012-07-24T20:25:15.149-04:002012-07-24T20:25:15.149-04:00That's a question for your therapist....and si...That's a question for your therapist....and since you're 90% sure you're going, and due to past experiences know it will be miserable, she'll also have some good ideas about managing expectations and staying calm and detached during your visit. So hey, put those new therapy skills in action!<br /><br />I would advise flying non-stop if you possibly can. Pack snacks. Pick out the restaurant you are going to ahead of time. And then pick out the alternate restaurant for when they object and monkey around with your choice. Plan for Bossy's meltdowns. Maybe send your mom and Sassy out for a manicure. <br /><br />Don't think about it as this awful looming trip to see your ungrateful asshole parents. Think of it as a test of your skills. You know your parents, your husband and your kids--lay out your strategies of dealing with each of them in order to get the most peace out of the weekend as you can. But also separate yourself from the outcome.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07382434220023284946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-81703007323598712202012-07-24T08:08:17.584-04:002012-07-24T08:08:17.584-04:00I think it is important to spend some time with th...I think it is important to spend some time with the parents - I know it isn't a 'vacation' but maybe you can plan to do something fun while you are there... visiting your parents is like visiting my in laws - they are about 17 hours from us (18 if we do a majority during the day) we drive - but dd is pretty awesome in a long car ride. she hates planes so she is good about driving. she calls it an 'adventure' ~ good luck! I hope you find some cheap flights! :)jpkittiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16042638265207370788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-48441664908330588742012-07-23T19:33:54.396-04:002012-07-23T19:33:54.396-04:00I think you should do it only if you are doing it ...I think you should do it only if you are doing it for yourself and/or your kids. Kids are all about experiences and it could be a great trip for them (their first plane rides and time with their grandparents). Will your kids go to the anniversary dinner? If not, you might want to think about doing something different that would include them. At this point, you might want to consider your obligation to your parents to be your kids' relationships with them and not your parents themselves, since they don't seem to care about their relationship with you.Annehueserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10933138074579131499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-29215876358389179392012-07-23T17:09:24.444-04:002012-07-23T17:09:24.444-04:00Mom and Dad don't care about seeing me.....the...Mom and Dad don't care about seeing me.....they really just want to see the kids. But the kids and I are a package deal.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-32187241099174297802012-07-23T16:56:52.087-04:002012-07-23T16:56:52.087-04:00I agree with Shauna. Fly by yourself, and that way...I agree with Shauna. Fly by yourself, and that way you wont need to spend the money on your kids and DH flying too. Take the money you save and take your little family on a fun experience(flying may even be an option that way)<br /><br />:)jadellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02056675217243161231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-36553057955209270972012-07-23T16:40:56.029-04:002012-07-23T16:40:56.029-04:00What about you and your brother going alone and ha...What about you and your brother going alone and having a "family" weekend. Much cheaper and you can go out for a nice, adult dinner, etc.Shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07635075866006606504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-39532233632171446872012-07-23T15:26:59.650-04:002012-07-23T15:26:59.650-04:00We would like to take the kids on a real vacation ...We would like to take the kids on a real vacation when we are debt free....they will be young teens by then. The plane travel is purely in play because if we went....it would cut down on the travel time (30 hrs vs 12), which would be great....and the bonus is the experience for the kids.<br /><br />As for the idea of when they are older...what would they think is more important...I have to say the plane ride. Bossy has no concept of money, so he won't care if we are debt free or not. He is all about experiences. Sassy....don't know what she will think. My honest guess is that she would remember the trip more than she will care about help with school.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-91243137368427120782012-07-23T15:22:59.215-04:002012-07-23T15:22:59.215-04:00I guarantee I won't come back with gushing sto...I guarantee I won't come back with gushing stories. And yes, I would be doing it out of obligation.<br /><br />Where the question comes in is do I deal with NOT going, and then having it held over my head, and repeatedly brought up? Or do I go, and while I know it won't be appreciated...at least I won't have it looming over me (although I am sure something will loom anyway).Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-81384648800631616752012-07-23T15:20:57.092-04:002012-07-23T15:20:57.092-04:00Long time no see!
Even the plane ride is going to...Long time no see!<br /><br />Even the plane ride is going to be stressful. I think Bossy will look forward to it, until it gets there...and then he will lose it.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-89636560639445911192012-07-23T15:20:10.511-04:002012-07-23T15:20:10.511-04:00This is what I would LIKE to think....This is what I would LIKE to think....Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-63865684530860283802012-07-23T15:19:45.503-04:002012-07-23T15:19:45.503-04:00If I knew it would be appreciated, I wouldn't ...If I knew it would be appreciated, I wouldn't be hesitant.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-12070570248429755182012-07-23T14:40:49.142-04:002012-07-23T14:40:49.142-04:00Based on comments you've posted about your par...Based on comments you've posted about your parents, I'd predict that they will NOT be grateful for your huge effort to celebrate with them and that you'll come back enraged and depressed and having spent money that could be used to pay down your debt. If you absolutely must spend the money why not plan a trip that involves plane travel so the kids can have that experience? Here is something to consider: when the kids are older, what do you think will be more important to them--a plane ride to visit relatives when they were young or parents who are currently debt free and in a position to help them with college or other schooling?Consuelohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11472743596120361365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-8812480882493553642012-07-23T14:10:31.019-04:002012-07-23T14:10:31.019-04:00I actually say no. And it has nothing to do with t...I actually say no. And it has nothing to do with the money. <br />The thing is, I can't explain it properly.<br />I guess I just can't see you coming back from this with big huge smiles and gushing with awesome stories to share especially after the last couple family stories you've shared.<br />It seems you are doing this out of obligation. Or you are doing this to please your parents even though, from what you've told us, it seems unlikely they WILL be pleased with your efforts.<br />I dunno. Maybe I'm just a Debbie Downer today but I say no. Send them a lovely card or gift. Call them together. But stay home with your family and do something you will all really enjoy-- even if it means having a movie marathon all weekend and doing nothing else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-91012719226106046022012-07-23T12:39:18.838-04:002012-07-23T12:39:18.838-04:00Ugh, that does not sound fun! But I see where you ...Ugh, that does not sound fun! But I see where you are coming from. The kids will probably be excited about the airplane ride, though! That part could be fun.Dogfood Providerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531368977590630270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-7848571262416978062012-07-23T12:32:52.338-04:002012-07-23T12:32:52.338-04:0010 years from now (or sooner) you will be grateful...10 years from now (or sooner) you will be grateful you gave yourself this gift.GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8465887551310827456.post-18757968782173425522012-07-23T10:23:35.366-04:002012-07-23T10:23:35.366-04:00It's a nice thing you are doing; but I know ho...It's a nice thing you are doing; but I know how you feel and your hesitation......<br /><br />GillGill - That British Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456247587052149765noreply@blogger.com